Get Happy!
Jul21

Get Happy!

“Some cause happiness wherever they go; others whenever they go.” – Oscar Wilde Hey, if we have the time to consider our happiness, then things can’t be all that bad, right? We’re not running for our lives; chased by a wooly mammoth or saber-toothed cat. Isn’t it all relative? For the 11% of Americans, 12 years of age and older who are depressed (National Center for Heath Statistics), this comment...

Read More
Nothing to Prove
Jun30

Nothing to Prove

You got a fast car I want a ticket to anywhere Maybe we make a deal Maybe together we can get somewhere Any place is better Starting from zero got nothing to lose Maybe we’ll make something Me myself I got nothing to prove – Tracy Chapman, 1988 –  Lyrics to “Fast Car”       You’ve heard all the cliches, “Show us what you can do.” … “Show them what you’re...

Read More
The New American Revolution
Jun16

The New American Revolution

We live in a society where the media mantra is: “BE ALL YOU CAN BE.” Yes, of course, “You’re not where you need to be yet, but WE know how to get you there.” Listen to the experts, those with credentials, the pundits.”  Join the Rat Race. Win at all costs. Be Desirous. Shop and Save; Spend, Spend, Spend, and then show off what You’ve accumulated. Become Famous and Adored. Be AMAZING! BE...

Read More
Artful Negotiation
Jun12

Artful Negotiation

“Silence is one of the great arts of conversation.” – Marcus Tullius Cicero In Part One, The Quality of Being, Silence was in the setting of personal benefits for our inner life. Part Two will address applications and advantages of Silence to serve us when advocating for ourselves or our causes.     In the game of chess, the original placement of the pieces on the board is the strongest defensive position....

Read More
Finding Your Stride: Inspirations From American Pharoah
Jun08

Finding Your Stride: Inspirations From American Pharoah

This past Saturday evening, while walking up Amsterdam Avenue to retrieve our daughter from a Minecraft Party, I noticed dozens of barflies spilling out onto the sidewalk from the Bourbon Street at 79th. All were hushed and captivated by the televisions behind the bar. The Belmont Stakes had just begun, and the favorite American Pharoah was out in front. Being early for pick-up, I joined the crowd and immediately became transfixed on...

Read More
Try a Little Tenderness
Jun05

Try a Little Tenderness

Emotions will be forever with us. They shape our individuality and distinguish our humanity. We can’t control what specific emotions will surface, but we can control what we do with them once they well up. If we are fortunate, we will most often experience calm waters. There will be turbulence, but hopefully the storms will be short-lived; ebbing and returning to calmer seas once again. “Water is one of the elements in...

Read More
Are You a Pimp…Or, a Ho?
Jun01

Are You a Pimp…Or, a Ho?

“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing; the last of human freedoms – to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.” – Victor E. Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning It was December of 2000; we were in the last months of Bill Clinton’s administration and the work in NYC for corporate functions was at an all-time high. My bread-and-butter gig...

Read More
Ben Franklin’s 13 Virtues
May27

Ben Franklin’s 13 Virtues

Benjamin Franklin, a Renaissance Man of the Colonial Era, is considered one of America’s greatest thinkers. One can find within the pages of his autobiography: The 13 Virtues and Precepts; which he developed in 1726 as a guide for his own process of development into manhood. Ben Franklin maintained a disciplined practice; keeping a thorough daily account of his activities and how they rated on his self-designed chart. (shown...

Read More
Practical Assertiveness
May26

Practical Assertiveness

Most, if not all of us could use some refinement when it comes to achieving the right balance between overbearing or controlling assertiveness and reticence or timidity. In how many situations did we feel as though we either didn’t know what was best to say or later wished we could have a do-over? Wikipedia’s definition of assertiveness infers this need for balance. It defines; “Assertiveness is the quality of being...

Read More
Can We Increase Our Intelligence?
Apr15

Can We Increase Our Intelligence?

From the beginning, we have been told that we come into this world with a certain amount of innate intelligence. Many people believe that creativity is something one either has or doesn’t have. So, we accept this as fact and learn to live and work with what we have. What if all this were not true? What if we could learn to increase our brain function and intelligence? What if we could activate our intuitive and creative powers?...

Read More
Punctuality is the Politeness of Kings
Apr09

Punctuality is the Politeness of Kings

It’s the little things that can say so much about a person. One of those, and maybe not such a little, is punctuality. When someone shows up late, it often implies the message that your time is not as valuable as theirs. There’s an unspoken disrespect or apathy.    King Louis XVIII of France, the post-French Revolution restored Bourbon King, ruled France from 1812-24. A child of the Age of Enlightenment and student of...

Read More
The Best Places in NYC to Meet Quality Singles
Apr05

The Best Places in NYC to Meet Quality Singles

Every day New York singles are out and about, living their lives in this bustling city. Many of the most interesting, dedicated, and inspiring people in the world come to live and make their dreams come true in our great city. They are people who not only have to do the typical mundane tasks of daily life, but they are also vibrant personalities engaged in interesting hobbies, passions, and activities. Here are some ideas of places...

Read More
Leadership Via the Lakota Path of the Warrior
Apr01

Leadership Via the Lakota Path of the Warrior

  Izzy Heart Man is a Lakota Indian from the Black Hills of South Dakota. He’s the Medicine Man for his tribe, primarily the spiritual leader and traditional healer. Izzy is a bear of a man, with a deep, mellifluous voice. His confidence, conviction, and bravado emanate. Years ago, having had the privilege of studying the Lakota Indian Path of the Warrior, it changed my life. I will always be grateful to Izzy. When asked...

Read More
New York City Etiquette
Mar24

New York City Etiquette

   New York City is the most densely populated metropolis in the United States. New Yorkers spend their entire lives sharing a relatively small plot of land. 1.63 million people live within 22.7 square miles or 59 square kilometers. On any given weekday, there are 4 million people on Manhattan island. On weekends, there’s 3 million. That’s over 176 thousand per each square mile on weekdays, 101 thousand more per square...

Read More
Cynical? …No, Thanks! We’re Having a Great Day!
Mar23

Cynical? …No, Thanks! We’re Having a Great Day!

  Who doesn’t find it hard to be around them? I’ll feel like I can’t even bring up a topic, in conversation, without them consciously or unconsciously trying to either make me feel inferior or make themselves feel superior or both!   In New York, I run into a lot of cynical people. They must be much smarter than me because they seem to have it all figured out. If you call them on it, forget-about-it, they act...

Read More
Journey Overcoming Shyness
Mar11

Journey Overcoming Shyness

   The original posting of this article was in the context of shyness in dating. The dating parts were kept in. Hopefully, this article can help those with shyness issues in general.    When we were children, adults excused shyness as an endearment of youth. Many of us, as we got older, confused shyness with humility. Older yet, many now perceive it as feebleness, weakness, unfriendliness, social discomfort, or unsocial behavior.  ...

Read More
Daddy, What is Success?
Feb28

Daddy, What is Success?

Way back, in the last century, there was a TV show hosted by the late Art Linkletter, entitled “Kids Say the Darndest Things.”  Linkletter brought to light how simple questions and answers, “out of the mouths of babes,” can give us a chuckle,  warm our hearts, or gift pearls of wisdom for our minds. Last Saturday morning, our young daughter queried, “Daddy, what is success?” Whoa! This inquiry...

Read More
What Makes a Real Man
Feb25

What Makes a Real Man

All of us have seen Hollywood’s versions of “real men” at the cinema – heroes played by the likes of Kirk Douglas, John Wayne, Clint Eastwood, Sean Connery, Toshiro Mifune, Jean Reno, Russell Crowe, etcetera. These are handsome-baritone-voiced-tough guys who aren’t afraid of anything. They get all the girls, win all the fights, drink all the hard stuff, and sleep with one eye open.  If we fall short of...

Read More

Pin It on Pinterest