The New Trend in Leadership: Finding a Mentor
Aug06

The New Trend in Leadership: Finding a Mentor

“The delicate balance of mentoring someone is not creating them in your own image, but giving them the opportunity to create themselves.” – Steven Spielberg There’s a growing trend among elite leaders to utilise the skills and experience of a mentor. Every enterprise goes through various permutations and progressions. Because of this, leaders will often find themselves in unfamiliar waters. New issues could...

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12 Tips to Help Alleviate Shyness
Aug03

12 Tips to Help Alleviate Shyness

“I never wish to offend, but I am so foolishly shy, that I often seem negligent, when I am only kept back by my natural awkwardness.” – Jane Austen Nearly half of all Americans claim to be shy. (Psychology Today) Some are so acutely shy that any social event or interaction is nothing less than an unscalable wall. If you are shy, know that there’s nothing wrong with you, even though it may seem that way. It’s now time...

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Arthur Rhames: Defining Greatness
Aug01

Arthur Rhames: Defining Greatness

Before meeting Arthur Rhames, his legendary status had preceded him. Even though he was only in his early twenties at the time, he was probably the most talked about up-and-coming musician on the New York scene. Arthur, with a heralded virtuosity on the piano, guitar, and saxophone, possessed incredible promise for a successful career. His musical goal was to extend the work of John Coltrane and the great masters of Jazz. His career...

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Interview with Dr. Hendrie Weisinger – New York Times Bestseller
Jul29

Interview with Dr. Hendrie Weisinger – New York Times Bestseller

Hendrie Weisinger Ph.D., world-renown Psychologist and author of the New York Times bestseller: Performing Under Pressure: The Science of Doing Your Best When It Matters Most, has taught at the Wharton School of the University of Pennsylvania and conducted corporate lectures and workshops for well over twenty years. He has appeared on The Oprah Show and The Today Show, among others. Dr. Hendrie Weisinger drove down from his home in...

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33 Ways to Enhance Your Marriage
Jul23

33 Ways to Enhance Your Marriage

“The key to our marriage is the capacity to give each other a break. And, to realize that it’s not how our similarities work together; it’s how our differences work together.” – Michael J. Fox   Every marriage has its ups and downs. That’s just the way it is. After twelve years of marriage and a nine-year-old daughter, some ideas and concepts have proven to be helpful. Take what you need and...

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Get Happy!
Jul21

Get Happy!

“Some cause happiness wherever they go; others whenever they go.” – Oscar Wilde Hey, if we have the time to consider our happiness, then things can’t be all that bad, right? We’re not running for our lives; chased by a wooly mammoth or saber-toothed cat. Isn’t it all relative? For the 11% of Americans, 12 years of age and older who are depressed (National Center for Heath Statistics), this comment...

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THEY Are Not the Enemy
Jul17

THEY Are Not the Enemy

“By our trust in the divine beauty in every person we develop that beauty in ourselves.” – Hazrat Inayat Khan   In Circle and Spear’s short life, it has already hosted readers from 88 countries. After the USA, Canada, and Europe, the subsequent largest readership is in Russia and Saudi Arabia. Today, after receiving 1000+ Twitter followers from Russia, Turkey, Kuwait, Iran, and Saudi Arabia, memories of my trip to...

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37 Tips to Reduce Stress
Jul13

37 Tips to Reduce Stress

75% of all Americans feel negative stress at least twice a month. Half of that number claim it’s severe! (CNN Health) In other words, YOU ARE NOT ALONE! Many times, we are under so much constant stress that we don’t even realize how stressed out we are! There are four groups or classifications that stress manifests. The common responses of “Fight or Flight” – negative ways of dealing with stress are found...

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My Visit to Google
Jul10

My Visit to Google

“We want Google to be the third half of your brain.” – Sergey Brin, co-founder of Google   Upon receiving news of the tour of Google Headquarters at 111-8th Avenue, in NYC, thoughts of The Wizard of Oz came to mind. Journeying to the Emerald City of technology to see the people behind the enigmatic curtain of the internet and other Great Mysteries was a much-anticipated event. Curiosity abounds about Google....

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It’s Not Your Wedding!
Jul07

It’s Not Your Wedding!

“I sang a song at my sister’s wedding. My mother forced me into that, too. But that one felt all right. – Adam Sandler   Today, in Central Park, an intimate wedding was held at the lakeside gazebo. The lovely ceremony was soulfully conducted by a young female interfaith minister. After the final pronouncement, everyone seemed so happy and excited until… …the Guy-With-The-Ponytail! …started...

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Nothing to Prove
Jun30

Nothing to Prove

You got a fast car I want a ticket to anywhere Maybe we make a deal Maybe together we can get somewhere Any place is better Starting from zero got nothing to lose Maybe we’ll make something Me myself I got nothing to prove – Tracy Chapman, 1988 –  Lyrics to “Fast Car”       You’ve heard all the cliches, “Show us what you can do.” … “Show them what you’re...

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Take Your Game To the Next Level
Jun24

Take Your Game To the Next Level

“What other people may find in poetry or art museums, I find in the flight of a good drive.” – Arnold Palmer   In “Performing Under Pressure,” Part One the discussion was on specific techniques to help prevent “choking” under pressure along with the concept of developing “quiet confidence” to establish a foundation of composure. In Part Two, we will investigate taking our...

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Don’t Choke! – Performing Under Pressure
Jun19

Don’t Choke! – Performing Under Pressure

We see it all the time; “This could win the game, the final shot. She’s at the foul line; it’s UP! Ahhhhhhhhhhhh …rolls off the rim. Noooooooooooo! The hometown crowd groans. Game over!” We see misses or errors in every sport. In that big moment, almost every botched opportunity could be attributed to the phenomena we have all experienced. For a split second, we lose full command of our faculties. In...

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The New American Revolution
Jun16

The New American Revolution

We live in a society where the media mantra is: “BE ALL YOU CAN BE.” Yes, of course, “You’re not where you need to be yet, but WE know how to get you there.” Listen to the experts, those with credentials, the pundits.”  Join the Rat Race. Win at all costs. Be Desirous. Shop and Save; Spend, Spend, Spend, and then show off what You’ve accumulated. Become Famous and Adored. Be AMAZING! BE...

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Artful Negotiation
Jun12

Artful Negotiation

“Silence is one of the great arts of conversation.” – Marcus Tullius Cicero In Part One, The Quality of Being, Silence was in the setting of personal benefits for our inner life. Part Two will address applications and advantages of Silence to serve us when advocating for ourselves or our causes.     In the game of chess, the original placement of the pieces on the board is the strongest defensive position....

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Silence: The Quality of Being
Jun10

Silence: The Quality of Being

“Let silence take you to the core of life.” – Jalaluddin Rumi Today, making the rare mid-morning cup of Earl Grey tea brought back memories of years devoted to meditation. Recalling just how difficult the first six months of daily practice were; trying to sit in silence, quieting the mind. It seems like another lifetime. I remember how seemingly impossible and improbable the endeavor was, as well as frustrating. Why...

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Finding Your Stride: Inspirations From American Pharoah
Jun08

Finding Your Stride: Inspirations From American Pharoah

This past Saturday evening, while walking up Amsterdam Avenue to retrieve our daughter from a Minecraft Party, I noticed dozens of barflies spilling out onto the sidewalk from the Bourbon Street at 79th. All were hushed and captivated by the televisions behind the bar. The Belmont Stakes had just begun, and the favorite American Pharoah was out in front. Being early for pick-up, I joined the crowd and immediately became transfixed on...

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Try a Little Tenderness
Jun05

Try a Little Tenderness

Emotions will be forever with us. They shape our individuality and distinguish our humanity. We can’t control what specific emotions will surface, but we can control what we do with them once they well up. If we are fortunate, we will most often experience calm waters. There will be turbulence, but hopefully the storms will be short-lived; ebbing and returning to calmer seas once again. “Water is one of the elements in...

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Why Every Child Needs an iPad
Jun03

Why Every Child Needs an iPad

We all know that kids love tech. Our daughter’s favorite possession is her iPad. She has a desktop and a laptop. Soon, she’ll be getting my iPhone 5s. Technology is here to stay. It makes our lives easier and facilitates learning. Some private schools are now accessorizing their students with iPads to support student-teacher communication and the educational process. Tech and the internet have created multiple spin-off...

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Are You a Pimp…Or, a Ho?
Jun01

Are You a Pimp…Or, a Ho?

“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing; the last of human freedoms – to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.” – Victor E. Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning It was December of 2000; we were in the last months of Bill Clinton’s administration and the work in NYC for corporate functions was at an all-time high. My bread-and-butter gig...

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